tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post3163008413807693203..comments2023-10-24T14:51:45.756+02:00Comments on Bloggertropolis: The Year Of The BullyStevehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-50216627344792697792012-05-15T14:06:04.480+02:002012-05-15T14:06:04.480+02:00Livi: you know, I think school should come with a ...Livi: you know, I think school should come with a Government health warning... it is worse than prison for educating kids the wrong way!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-3898852367548686342012-05-15T13:40:07.917+02:002012-05-15T13:40:07.917+02:00I was bullied in high school, emotionally not phys...I was bullied in high school, emotionally not physically, but to the point that I moved schools because I had become suicidal from it. I still haven't really got over it and it was one of the catalysts for my mental illnesses.<br /><br />I do hope that your son is neither bully nor bullied and finds the middle ground somehow.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05078202146118940939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-45254503976360862442012-05-09T18:50:38.515+02:002012-05-09T18:50:38.515+02:00Laura: it is sad indeed when childhood becomes a t...Laura: it is sad indeed when childhood becomes a trial or a game of survival. I think we British have a very sentimental view of childhood and tend to blind ourselves to the darker truth of the matter.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-33768057500407214692012-05-09T18:48:08.274+02:002012-05-09T18:48:08.274+02:00One of my main reasons for not having children - I...One of my main reasons for not having children - I could never put them through everything I went through. I hated the whole childhood thing from start to finish and was furnished with no coping mechanisms or survival tactics whatsoever. The bizarre thing was one of my biggest bullies chose to be as nice as pie to me on our joint final day there! I still couldn't face going to Uni though and left education as soon as I could.<br />Weird how they knock schools down and build new ones, yet next minute they are saying they don't have enough school equipment to go around. Half the schools that are demolished seem to have nothing wrong with them. Or rather, nothing that can't be easily fixed.The Poet Laura-eatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779308486569849157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-39968186469751508142012-05-01T18:57:49.771+02:002012-05-01T18:57:49.771+02:00Katriina: hear hear to the nth power.Katriina: hear hear to the nth power.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-86206382655492636732012-05-01T18:52:28.178+02:002012-05-01T18:52:28.178+02:00School is a tough place. I avoided "proper&qu...School is a tough place. I avoided "proper" bullying only by being reasonably good at sport, which gave me points I would otherwise have sorely lacked. My oldest child is about to start primary school, and I'm already worried about bullying. I'm hoping that you and I both are worrying for nothing, and that our kids will either have the smarts to avoid bullying, or will have the self-confidence to let it run off their backs.Katriinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403719183047819222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-74316345733818669862012-05-01T18:48:57.931+02:002012-05-01T18:48:57.931+02:00Nota Bene: I love you.Nota Bene: I love you.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-82493327924222246622012-05-01T16:35:48.831+02:002012-05-01T16:35:48.831+02:00It's amazing how our status gets set for life ...It's amazing how our status gets set for life in our school days. I've seen idiots who were considered top of their tree by some to sail through life simply because of the boost they got at school. And vice versa. I'm most pleased though to see that some of the downtrodden have finally found their way later in life...and enjoy themselves all the more because of this unexpected and new found place in the world. I'm sure your lad will do well...he has a cool dadNota Benehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969705852180234416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-85921399204526234492012-05-01T13:59:06.419+02:002012-05-01T13:59:06.419+02:00Marginalia: and who would admit to being a bully i...Marginalia: and who would admit to being a bully in order to tell their tale?Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-23046886034492053472012-05-01T11:58:34.799+02:002012-05-01T11:58:34.799+02:00"While other boys talked lasciviously of what..."While other boys talked lasciviously of what you were meant to do to make a girl come." <br /><br />Obviously made a huge impact on your immature mind.<br /><br />What we don't have is the story from the bully's point of view.Marginaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01175372147298306908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-81891494061806229732012-05-01T08:53:46.653+02:002012-05-01T08:53:46.653+02:00John: thank you. Will reply ASAP.
The fly in the ...John: thank you. Will reply ASAP.<br /><br />The fly in the web: I hope so... but teens tend not to be the most comminicative of beasties. Lord knows I wasn't.<br /><br />Being Me: I sometimes think that school is a cruel punishment that we all insanely think will do our kids good and turn them all into well rounded individuals. Sometimes I think it is merely a zoo where the peer lessons are nothing short of barbaric. If could afford it I'd have my kids taught at home. <br /><br />I'm sorry you had such a crap time at school. Sorry for us both. Neither of us deserved it.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-25560026943228150512012-05-01T05:42:51.998+02:002012-05-01T05:42:51.998+02:00The big bullies have grown up and, surprise-surpri...The big bullies have grown up and, surprise-surprise, raised bullies. Like super-bugs that are immune to every type of antibiotic currently available.<br /><br />This post has left me feeling flat somewhat (no pun intended). I feel for you. I was you, the female version. I was punched in the stomach, I was sneered at. I have a class photo from Yr 10 (we were all 14-15) and I distinctly recall the girl standing next to me making the most horrible loud bitchy comments about me, my looks, my demeanour... and them all laughing except my bestie who's standing on the other side. Far out. You just brought back a memory I'd rather just forget.<br /><br />So I'll blog about it! Your boy will be fine. Because he is decent. And decent wins out, even with deep long-lasting scars. I just wish with everything in me that those sorts of hurts never had to happen.Being Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600427311498297800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-26166307590506161992012-05-01T05:16:03.631+02:002012-05-01T05:16:03.631+02:00You're aware of the possibility of bullying, o...You're aware of the possibility of bullying, of exclusion, so you'll be able to catch on fast if your son has any problems.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-49916385538744213492012-04-30T23:28:04.304+02:002012-04-30T23:28:04.304+02:00steve
I have done
thank yousteve<br />I have done<br />thank youJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-44234762525418846952012-04-30T23:00:46.890+02:002012-04-30T23:00:46.890+02:00Very Bored in Catalunya: kids can be so cruel if l...Very Bored in Catalunya: kids can be so cruel if left unchecked... bullying alas is natural to them. It is up to the teachers and parents to be on the look out for it and intervene. Bullying ultimately damages both parties.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-66416538200322874942012-04-30T22:47:47.859+02:002012-04-30T22:47:47.859+02:00This is one of my absolute worst fears for my son,...This is one of my absolute worst fears for my son, already at just 5 he has suffered physical bullying and being excluded and ignored by his peers.<br /><br />I guess we can only watch and wait and hope for the best, whilst encouraging our kids to be confident in their own skins and find their own paths.<br /><br />Scary times. This parenting lark, it's not easy!Very Bored in Catalunyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07695203425270299420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-83187842768320989092012-04-30T22:38:12.877+02:002012-04-30T22:38:12.877+02:00John: do feel free to email me in confidence via m...John: do feel free to email me in confidence via my profile page.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-17820036563148527392012-04-30T22:35:51.970+02:002012-04-30T22:35:51.970+02:00I would like you to know my story but not on this ...I would like you to know my story but not on this forumJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-55298467724629141582012-04-30T21:00:10.455+02:002012-04-30T21:00:10.455+02:00John: I'd be lying if I said that there's ...John: I'd be lying if I said that there's not a small part of me that hopes all the bullies have had miserable lives... guess I'm slightly embittered.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-1483649465796590882012-04-30T20:50:44.431+02:002012-04-30T20:50:44.431+02:00kids do survive
and often it is the haunted memori...kids do survive<br />and often it is the haunted memories of children that visit adult relationships<br />I was bullied in school<br />and I met one of those that bullied me a year or so ago "on line" so to speak....(via going gently)<br />it was a bitter sweet catch up. and turned out very painful on both sidesJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-4590986362700006292012-04-30T19:49:02.226+02:002012-04-30T19:49:02.226+02:00Gorilla Bananas: damned right. A riser is the thin...Gorilla Bananas: damned right. A riser is the thing to be. In every sense of the word.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-78863939918513484182012-04-30T19:10:21.191+02:002012-04-30T19:10:21.191+02:00What became of those bullies and cool kids? is the...What became of those bullies and cool kids? is the question you should ponder. I doubt many of them are top of the pile now. It's better to be a riser than a faller.Gorilla Bananashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13044093013423635830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-40968473336388208252012-04-30T18:40:57.439+02:002012-04-30T18:40:57.439+02:00Martin: it's amazing what having the right kin...Martin: it's amazing what having the right kind of friend can do! I was lucky in that, although I never infiltrated any of the "groups" I had a good core base of solid friends. Good friends can see you through most things. As true now as it was then.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-59352608648258120362012-04-30T18:39:30.159+02:002012-04-30T18:39:30.159+02:00Hannah: thanks. It's an eyeopener to realize j...Hannah: thanks. It's an eyeopener to realize just how many people underwent similar experiences. I guess a bad time at school is pretty universal. <br /><br />Vix: yep... and learning to read the signs in a burgeoning teen is an art in itself!<br /><br />Expat Mum: I guess some things never change. There will always be those that are "in" and those that are "out". I'm sure the "out's" have more fulfilling lives once they leave school and make their own way in the world.<br /><br />Gappy: he's already showing signs of morphing into a teen! Scary! Next year might be tough on us all!<br /><br />Adam: like me I'm sure you were glad to put school behind you.<br /><br />Wanderlust: you know you got me on the Lego! And you're right about liking yourself. It's the key to it all. Accept yourself and the detractors lose all power over you. It's hard to do that when you're young though. It's the one lesson they don't teach you at school!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-12015381527779480062012-04-30T18:36:11.319+02:002012-04-30T18:36:11.319+02:00A very touching post, and one that a lot of people...A very touching post, and one that a lot of people (including myself), can relate to. <br />I ended up at a large comprehensive when I was eleven, and experienced much the same as you. Luckily for me, I happened to be friendly with the tallest boy in our year, and everybody knew that he could handle himself if provoked. Seems that no-one was too keen to pick on me, and risk Alan wreaking vengeance on my behalf!<br />He left for Australia when we were fourteen, and we met up last year for the first time in 37 years! And guess what; I'm as tall as him now!<br />Your son will be fine. Mostly because you're both aware of the situation....Martin Lowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03875064625911285695noreply@blogger.com