tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post6750517267311589191..comments2023-10-24T14:51:45.756+02:00Comments on Bloggertropolis: Just LookingStevehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-58485629422697698972010-11-01T08:57:27.129+01:002010-11-01T08:57:27.129+01:00Mark: flight already booked...Mark: flight already booked...Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-8675032341802790022010-10-31T23:31:22.577+01:002010-10-31T23:31:22.577+01:00It's all in the timing I reckon... and maybe t...It's all in the timing I reckon... and maybe the intensity of the gaze. <br /><br />Go to Sienna or similar Italian city in summer and I defy you not to look. I went there on my honeymoon and I still thought the women were gorgeous!The bike shedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05195882998271591934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-71369430628120871212010-10-31T13:45:13.071+01:002010-10-31T13:45:13.071+01:00LöstJimmy: ...is the safest way I think. Eyes up a...LöstJimmy: ...is the safest way I think. Eyes up and down and bulging out is apparently frowned upon.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-51208571688050186642010-10-31T13:26:14.109+01:002010-10-31T13:26:14.109+01:00Eyes right...Eyes right...Löst Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09907139441842698894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-67812133327317210042010-10-31T12:10:32.533+01:002010-10-31T12:10:32.533+01:00Livi: as Laura says below you - sublety is tke key...Livi: as Laura says below you - sublety is tke key! I guess make it a little bit obvious but not too obvious!<br /><br />Laura: that explains a lot. Red is just not my colour at all!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-39933057149453256502010-10-31T11:23:46.584+01:002010-10-31T11:23:46.584+01:00Personally-speaking I have never fancied a man on ...Personally-speaking I have never fancied a man on looks alone. Call me fussy but he's got to demonstrate some charisma and a likeable personality too.<br /><br />Re men looking at women, I think subtlety is the key. Plus men are far likely to get anywhere if they come across as a letch, so it hardly works as a strategy either!<br /><br />Apparently the colour red makes us 20% more attractive when we wear it. I am acquiring a fully-scarlet wardrobe as we speak!The Poet Laura-eatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779308486569849157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-86389102748085149882010-10-31T10:00:27.042+01:002010-10-31T10:00:27.042+01:00oooh, interesting! I blogged about being on the ot...oooh, interesting! I blogged about being on the other end of this during summer, it's not nice.<br />But you're right, women stare too and I know that I'm guilty of drooling over a hot woman, but I do like to think it's in a "you are so god dammed beautiful" way, rather than the lecherous "I would" *wink* *wink* *nudge* *nudge*.<br />Loving the sunglasses comment though! Probably the best idea, as long as you don't do the awful think of literally looking them up and down.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05078202146118940939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-51265237219153825612010-10-31T08:28:34.059+01:002010-10-31T08:28:34.059+01:00Being Me: the van thing sounds horrific - extremel...Being Me: the van thing sounds horrific - extremely intimidating. I've heard of it happening in the US but not so much here in the UK - though I did have a woman come into my place of work last month to call the police because a lone male in a car followed her very slowly along the street... no difference really; the effect is the same.<br /><br />TheUndertaker: that's the difference between men and women - guys will still look even if the woman is plainly with a partner. No sense of decency us males!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-75054927040940823402010-10-31T05:45:45.799+01:002010-10-31T05:45:45.799+01:00Just for my 5 cents worth, at my age (tender 40-is...Just for my 5 cents worth, at my age (tender 40-ish) a bit of ogling coming my way is gratefully received, as long as it is fleeting. And I don't mind giving it back, if the eye candy is worth it (and not with a girlfriend etc).<br />And love organic motherhood's (with whip?) comment re mental masturbation. None of that, please : )TheUndertakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316547511892258854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-75892629363508710692010-10-30T23:20:43.669+02:002010-10-30T23:20:43.669+02:00Love your photo caption today. Am chuckling immatu...Love your photo caption today. Am chuckling immaturely which I'm assuming was part of your intention.<br /><br />I felt intimidated by that sort of thing in the years before my early 20's. Very self-conscious. Now that I could handle it - as other commenters have already said - I'm never in the right/wrong place at the right/wrong time.<br /><br />I don't think there's anything wrong with looking out of appreciation, but when someone ogles or makes involuntary grunts (which to me is beyond wolf whistling), then I have to wonder where their sense of decency is. I'm guessing it's not in their pants. I don't know why some males - I've not seen females perform this way, although I can imagine there are many who would - are so incensed that they have to do this. <br /><br />I've been chased through traffic more than I've been whistled at as I walk past a building site. I can tell you, it's alarming and dangerous to have a car or van full of males hanging out their windows leering at and/or propositioning you. Surely that's not just an Aussie thing?? (is it?)Being Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600427311498297800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-69360502637988252662010-10-30T23:15:57.207+02:002010-10-30T23:15:57.207+02:00Emma: looking is one of thing... but touching? Tch...Emma: looking is one of thing... but touching? Tch,tch. That's something else entirely.<br /><br />Amanda: to be honest I don't think those guys were capable of thinking beyond or around the sudden rush of blood to their y-fronts...Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-55525637012851555462010-10-30T22:10:00.735+02:002010-10-30T22:10:00.735+02:00I am going to have to get outta bed earlier (or st...I am going to have to get outta bed earlier (or stay up later) to get an original thought in here, I can see that! I did wonder how the blokes on the building site (with their butt cracks and hairy shoulders...) eevr thought for one minute about how the girls would be someone's daughter, sister, etc. But then again, now I'm at the invisible age....(sigh).The Sagittarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05513045101496737031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-32924177236031271672010-10-30T20:59:43.928+02:002010-10-30T20:59:43.928+02:00No its great to look I don't even mind wolf wh...No its great to look I don't even mind wolf whistling but I draw the line at someone groping my bum - then I go all Miss Piggy Hy Ya!!! I just get so jealous sometimes I hardly ever fancy anyone (of course its a different story when I've had a few beer goggles etc) Enjoy yourself!MommyHeadachehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03924035710478459520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-54766439416337402882010-10-30T18:55:48.405+02:002010-10-30T18:55:48.405+02:00Organic Motherhood with Cool Whip: "mental ma...Organic Motherhood with Cool Whip: "mental masturbation"... that sums it up so well!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-82726614337586980182010-10-30T18:49:07.291+02:002010-10-30T18:49:07.291+02:00I'm with VeryBored. Looking is cool, so long a...I'm with VeryBored. Looking is cool, so long as it doesn't turn into drooling and mental masturbation.Organic Motherhood with Cool Whiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09305464822153790948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-23825358887270847902010-10-30T09:59:49.586+02:002010-10-30T09:59:49.586+02:00Previously (Very) Lost in France: the difference i...Previously (Very) Lost in France: the difference in perception is the most interesting thing about this. The people doing the leering rarely think they are leering; they often think they are paying the recipient a compliment and acting out a courtship ritual which they desperately hope will give them a good return. The fact that it never does never seems to register. Hope springs eternal, eh?Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-72830456878871786822010-10-30T09:20:10.039+02:002010-10-30T09:20:10.039+02:00Well, it's been a good few years since I had t...Well, it's been a good few years since I had to suffer the particular sort of leer that is produced on a building site - to be honest, one or two would be quite refreshing these days! But I remember walking to work across Trafalgar Square and having to run the gauntlet of a bunch of drunk Scottish football fans. It was seriously intimidating, although I'm sure they thought is was just a bit of fun!The Accidental Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01146937745719946782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-92063518446589193082010-10-30T09:00:19.051+02:002010-10-30T09:00:19.051+02:00Alienne: you're right... and given the age peo...Alienne: you're right... and given the age people live to these days there are possibly more dirty old men than dirty young men...<br /><br />English Rider: making it a reciprocal process evens the odds and the sense of power.<br /><br />MissBehaving: yes, I think that sums it up nicely - the unfairness of the situation, who had the power, who was powerless. All these things make it wrong where a quick glance in the street as you walk past someone is a different ball game altogether.<br /><br />Owen: the magnificent erection wasn't smelling too good, I have to say, not worthy mate material!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-90950355082651363672010-10-30T06:08:58.239+02:002010-10-30T06:08:58.239+02:00My goodness Steve, if no one looked, the human rac...My goodness Steve, if no one looked, the human race would have gone extinct millenia ago. We are programmed to seek mates... which is largely a visual process, before we get close enough to smell... Now, what was that you said about a "magnificent erection" ???<br />:-)Owenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12622587942009516590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-91351239659992314152010-10-30T02:26:27.988+02:002010-10-30T02:26:27.988+02:00In your scenario the girl has to actually walk pas...In your scenario the girl has to actually walk past it, something that could take seconds or a minute right, so the discomfort is inescapable for the duration, and it is intimidating because in the builder scenario she is generally well out numbered. <br />Having a 'longish' glance at a hot man/woman in the street, the moment is so much more fleeting and also more ambiguous, ( 'was he/she just checking me out?). Everyone does it. Don't they?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-42106236538121257382010-10-30T00:26:28.544+02:002010-10-30T00:26:28.544+02:00Looking with appreciation is fine but should be ac...Looking with appreciation is fine but should be accompanied by eye contact and a friendly, non-threatening smile. Then it can be called recognition and you are giving something in return.English Riderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01712384532126551307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-77166262023691662892010-10-29T23:23:23.683+02:002010-10-29T23:23:23.683+02:00As others have said, a quick glance is fine; gawli...As others have said, a quick glance is fine; gawling and drooling is not a good thing. It does sod all for your street cred. And remember, the older you get the quicker the glance - or you will just look like a reeeelly sad dirty old man. And god knows, there are plenty of them around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-61037399572972089022010-10-29T22:42:22.079+02:002010-10-29T22:42:22.079+02:00Heather: that's because you are living in a co...Heather: that's because you are living in a country where there are more reindeer than people and the people think it is still 1970. ;-)Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-44609169118294740272010-10-29T22:31:00.486+02:002010-10-29T22:31:00.486+02:00ee you big old perv! lol. Nah, as others have sai...ee you big old perv! lol. Nah, as others have said, there's a difference, a big difference. Sadly these days I only tend to get the 'what on earth does she look like' looks.Not From Laplandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17165208811776097332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35009574.post-50640865649946798912010-10-29T19:30:54.715+02:002010-10-29T19:30:54.715+02:00Keith: I think that's a good point there - ack...Keith: I think that's a good point there - acknowledging the other person's reaction; If they're unhappy, stop right away. If they're please... well, that's a feather in your cap!<br /><br />OC: thank you for the feedback - it's really interesting to hear from someone who's seen both sides of it. I think you're right - there are clear boundaries and male, female, straight or gay, we know when we're pushing them and we know when we've crossed them. "Gaze with respect" could be a new movement!Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.com